||Truth About Ben Wa Balls
||by Tamar Love
I first heard of Ben Wa Balls when I was a teenager: I was browsing in a New
Age store, playing with Chinese meditation balls--those smooth, metal balls
that one rolls around in one's palm, careful not to let them touch lest an
internal chime clang. "Are those Ben Wa Balls?" my shopping companion
whispered to me. I was startled--what were Ben Wa Balls? My girlfriend muttered
something about "sex balls that you put in your vagina," and blushed,
hurrying down the aisle to purchase some incense. I started at the two-inch
balls in my hand. Was I really supposed to insert these?
turns out, no, I wasn't. Fortunately, I didn't even try. But millions of women
have inserted the real Ben Wa Balls--small, marble-sized metal balls, usually
hollow and containing a small weight that rolls around, creating vibrations
within the vagina and surrounding sensitive tissue. Some swear by the rotating
tingles these discreet toys produce; others cry bunk, claiming the insertable
wonders fall short of their orgasmic promise. I decided to find out for myself.
has it that women in ancient Japan or China first inserted egg-shaped hollow
balls carved from ivory, then spent hours gently rocking back and forth, eventually
experiencing a subtle-yet-crashing orgasm. Today, Ben Wa Balls are made from
a variety of substances, including gold
plating, silver, steel, plastic, Lucite and any combination thereof. Fancier
models are packaged quite glamorously, and can make a fun gift for your lover.
they are made from hard, non-porous substances, Ben Wa Balls don't absorb
bacteria--so you can use them longer than other sex toys. Some women claim
they wear them all day, experiencing clandestine fun at the office, the grocery
store...even on dates. Other women enjoy using them for partner sex, and say
their male partners love encountering the smooth balls during penetration.
However, some women say the toys are little more than useless, producing a
sensation so slight, they may as well not be using the balls at all.
many Ben Wa novices express alarm at the thought of inserting and removing
the balls, it's relatively simple: just pop them in and squeeze them out.
You may want to experiment with location; some people enjoy holding them lower
in the vagina, while others try to position them directly behind their G-Spots.
Just don't aim for the cervix--while you're unlikely to have a problem with
them slipping past your body's gateway to the uterus, you probably won't enjoy
any kind of clanging sensation that close to your cervix, a region some women
find particularly sensitive.
Ben Wa Ball Debate--The Argument Against
health professionals state that, contrary to popular belief, Ben Wa Balls
aren't as mobile as the marketing hype would have you believe. Says Dr. P.
Sandor Gardos, "Once spheres of any sort are inserted into the vagina,
they will simply sit there--not roll around as some people think. Any sensation
a woman feels will derive from the slight vibration of the inner ball rolling
inside the hollow, larger one as she moves." Apparently the vagina isn't
as large as many women are led to believe; the walls of the vagina usually
hold the balls in place, allowing only a slight amount of movement and the
sometimes-undetectable feeling of the ball's internal weight rolling around
inside. For many women, this subtle sensation just won't do--fans of power
tools, pocket rockets and other high-frequency toys may want to shop around
for another kind of toy.
Ben Wa Ball Debate--The Argument For
that by themselves, Ben Wa Balls only provide light stimulation. However,
many people argue that we should be more in tune with our bodies, that we
rely too heavily on high-powered stimulus for easy gratification. While some
people don't have much of a quibble with that line of thinking, many others--among
them Tantra enthusiasts, Taoist sex practitioners, yoga and meditation advocates
and other endorsers of spirituality, health and sensual living--feel that
we would benefit from a return to enjoying life's subtler pleasures. It's
rumored that the orgasms achieved from using Ben Wa Balls are worth the wait.
But ultimately, Ben Wa Balls can provide one very good benefit: with proper
use, they can help to tighten and strengthen your PC muscle, which not only
gives you a more desirable grip during intercourse, but also helps to control
your bladder and prevent incontinence as you age.
you bother with Ben Wa Balls, or take a pass? I say go for it! What could
it hurt? But it doesn't really matter what I--or women from ancient China,
or sex experts, or anyone else--think. What matters is your own sexuality
and your own preference for pleasure-inducing toys. While I would definitely
recommend that you at least try Ben Wa Balls (I'd love to be one of the women
for whom these work!), it's ultimately your own personal decision. There's
no right or wrong answer, and no medical, health or scientific reason why
you wouldn't want to experiment with these toys. They aren't particularly
expensive, so if you decide you don't like them, it won't be a huge drain
on your wallet. Do be prepared to spend some time perfecting your technique--the
payoff can be tremendous!