woman is different; everyone has different likes and dislikes when
it comes to foreplay, sex and everything before, after and in between.
Many women don't care for breast play at all, which is fine. However,
many women enjoy attention lavished on "the girls," especially
when it's done right.
my first piece of advice: Don't ever grab or latch onto your partner's
breasts. Yes, even here, one needs to start slowly. Initially, of
course, find out whether or not your playmate enjoys this activity
at all. If not, you are done here. If so, read on...
When two people are kissing
and caressing, some grappling eventually occurs. Keep in mind that
the breasts are not there to give you something to hang on to or bat
back and forth. You would not appreciate this treatment of your "boys,"
after all. Treat a woman's breasts gently.
This is especially important
to keep in mind for women with very sensitive breasts, which can be
caused by pregnancy, her menstrual cycle or Mother Nature making them
that way. When our breasts are tender, the last thing we want is someone
clamping down on them in the throes of passion.
To begin, very gently cup
her breast and use your palm to lightly brush over the nipple. If
you get a good response to this -- i.e., back arching, sighing, your
friend grabbing your hand and mashing it harder against herself --
you may apply more pressure.
This brings us to the next
step: the assault on the nipple. I say "assault" because
many people who get the "go" from their sex partner tend
to either attach themselves to a nipple like a Lamprey eel or turn
us into human radios, twisting our nipples, presumably to locate Tokyo
Rose. We get absolutely no radio reception through our breasts; therefore,
grabbing our nipples head and twisting them back and forth like knobs
will yield no musical results.
Step back and go slower.
Gentle, teasing action is what will really heat us up in the beginning.
Gently roll the nipple back and forth with your thumb and forefinger.
Lightly graze your fingertip around the breast, areola and nipple,
occasionally stroking straight over it. As long as you're using a
feather-light touch, all should be well. Then you may move on to light
tugging and other nipple manipulations.
If you're using your tongue,
run it all around each breast, circle the areola, and gradually make
your way to the nipple. Once there, continue teasing and merely flick
the tip of it (with your tongue, not your fingernail) or press gently
with the flat of your tongue. A positive reaction to this may now
lead to gentle suction and even light nibbling of the nipple.
As your lover becomes more
aroused, she'll let you know when to do more or less. If your partner
isn't one to flat-out tell you what she likes and dislikes, go by
her other non-verbal cues, such as sighs, faster or sharper intake
of breath and body language -- moving closer or trying to get as far
away from your offending hand or mouth as possible.
I'm sure many males out
there are thinking, "Now, what about pushing her breasts together
and using them to masturbate? That's sexy! Why didn't you talk about
that?" Well, quite frankly, because it doesn't do a damned thing
for me. I'm going to go out on a limb and say that most women would
agree -- with the caveat that we'll become aroused through this activity
because we know it feels good to you.
When you're talking with
a woman, always make eye contact. This holds true whether you're with
a life mate or someone you just met -- I don't care if she has breasts
the size of the Rockies or is wearing a push-up bra that raises them
to her chin. If you want to ogle her up and down when she's not paying
attention, that's your call, but speaking to a woman's breasts, for
most women, is tantamount to grabbing her crotch. Breasts don't speak
or hear, so unless you want the object of your desire to walk away
in disgust, keep your eyes at eye level.
On a more serious note,
I would like everyone to remember that a great person is the sum of
their parts and shouldn't be equated with just one physical piece
in particular. Ladies, embrace your breasts, no matter what their
size or shape, and realize thousands of women are not lucky enough
to be in possession still of a full set, if any at all. Honor them
and yourselves by keeping your breasts healthy through professional
and self-exams and not bemoaning the fact that they're "too big"
or "not big enough." If someone else is judging you by your
breast size, they're jerks.
Obviously, you all know
your regular partners much better than I do, but I'm pretty sure if
you at least try the methods mentioned above, you'll get the desired
results. Don't just take my word for it! Try showing this article
to your female love monkey to get her reaction to it. If you see several
head nods as she's reading it, you'll have some new -- or at least,
different -- moves to try.
Having said that, I want
everyone to go forward, armed with knowledge, respect and pride for
a great set of breasts -- your own or someone else's. Enjoy the fun
of experimentation and exploration -- and remember that breasts don't
make the woman; the woman makes the breasts!